How do you folks cope with being 2nd best? Throughout my deep personal relationships, I have always put my partner first, his needs have always been paramount. He has been more important than my mother or father, and usually it has been mutual. I think this is healthy in serious relationships. However when you date someone with kid baggage, you know your needs will never be paramount.
So, while his needs are always the most important thing in your heart, your needs come somewhere way down the line after his child’s.